Since I got my A Level results and my college place secured, my mother has been more disparaging and critical of me than ever. You’d think she’d be thrilled and really proud of my success. But no. Instead she’s telling me I won’t make friends or manage to look after myself and will end up spending my time drinking alone. I keep telling myself not to believe her and suspect she will miss not having me around to nag and bully.
I feel lucky to have got into my first choice of university to do the subject I chose. I was keen to get as far away from home as possible and I’m relieved I won’t be able to come back for a day trip. It means I can start a new episode in my life where I don’t feel I am forever walking on eggshells. It’s something I’ve dreamed of and has made all my hard work worthwhile.
I’m off soon but to be honest I do have concerns. Money will be tight. My mother has been blackmailing me that if I don’t do what I’m told, I can forget about any financial help coming from her. I tell myself I have my grant and will try to get a part-time job.
I'm also unsure how to deal with my mother while I am away. I need to maintain some contact as I will be home during the holidays and want to avoid a endless criticism on how neglectful I was during term time. Should I ring once a week, or once a month? Also how should I react if she’s rude to me? Should I try texting instead? Or even invite her to come and see me, which, to be honest I would dread.
Although I have longed for my freedom for years and relish the chance to be responsible for myself and to hang out with new friends, I’d be grateful for any helpful hints.