It’s my grandmother’s 90th birthday just after Christmas and she is coming from her nursing home to join my mother and me on Christmas Day so we can celebrate the occasion at my mother’s home. My grandmother is physically quite unwell, but her mind is as sharp as a razor. She dislikes my mother which is possibly why my mother dislikes me. My wife left me during the year and our five-year-old twins are spending this Christmas with her. It’s been a stressful time which I am beginning to recover from and I am determined that I am not going to let a bad atmosphere or spiteful comments from either of them get to me. I shall think of myself as a duck for the day and let whatever they say just roll off me. If it becomes unpleasant it won’t be my fault. Do you think that will work? My grandmother dislikes Christmas pudding as I do and I am planning to leave just after the turkey.