Help! It’s nearly Mother’s Day and I don’t know what to do.
My mother makes it obvious that she doesn’t like me and that whatever I do is wrong. I don’t want to buy her flowers, chocolates or send a loving card. If I do past experience tells me she will say something like: ‘surely you didn’t waste your money on this? You know full well that I think cut flowers need too much looking after,’ or ‘chocolates make me fat, especially this brand.’
But if I don’t mark it in some way she’s likely to say: ‘Everyone else’s daughter is buying their mother something nice. I’ve always known you were a disappointment.’ Or compare me unfavourably with my brother who in her eyes does everything right. Last year she said rather menacingly: ‘ I had a beautiful card from your brother…now I know who really loves me’. The fact is that it is true. I don’t love her and he does. The problem is I’d feel so guilty if I didn’t get her something.