Tactless and Rude
My mother is acutely embarrassing and the least subtle person I know. It’s bad enough when she complains about my cooking in front of my husband and children ‘Is it something the dog turned down?’ Or that my new hairstyle ‘just doesn’t suit you.’
She has no qualms about criticizing someone out loud when we are on a bus together or in a restaurant. ‘That woman shouldn’t order a dessert,’ she’s said more than once about a woman sitting at a nearby table. ‘She’s far too fat as it is.’
Once when she was staying overnight she walked straight into our bedroom without even knocking. When I told her off she said she wanted to speak to me and didn’t do anything wrong.
Sometimes she’s so tactless I worry that someone will come up to her and punch her in the face. I’ve tried to speak to her about this by asking her to lower her voice when she wants to be rude about a stranger and have even persuaded her to have a hearing test. But she thinks her opinion counts. She also nearly ruined my relationship with my husband. We hadn’t been going out together for long when I took him to a family wedding. My mother told me loudly at the ceremony that his tie didn’t match his shirt. I wanted to disappear. He was very generous about it all and now fifteen years later he even laughs about it now and then, but it still makes me cringe.
What on earth can I do about her?