I have never been materialistic like my dad who can’t talk about anything without turning it into some kind of financial deal. It’s partly why I chose to be a chiropractor and not join his property business. When I married five years ago my wife who is a nurse and I had trouble affording to rent a flat let alone buying something. My father told us renting was a waste of money and offered to help us buy a small flat. He also made it clear the money was a loan which he expected to be paid back with interest. After a great deal of discussion we decided to accept his offer. It’s been a nightmare ever since because he believes he now owns us. He comes over whenever he wants to without warning and demands to know what we are doing and our plans for the future.
He criticises us for taking even a modest holiday when we could be saving money and keeps saying he has a deal pending which may mean he will need us to pay him back. I think they are empty threats and that he is using his wealth to control us. He was very cross with us for having a third child saying we should know better. It’s been the last straw for my wife who now can’t bear him coming over and interfering. She wants us to sell the flat, give him back his money and rent a home we can afford. It will not be a surprise to know that he has been divorced twice, that my two younger brothers live in fear of him and I am not very good at standing up for myself either. Can you help at all please.