I was horrified two weeks ago when my personal email suddenly became full of crude individuals asking me for a date. I also received phone calls and texts on my mobile from men I didn’t know, some accompanied by very vulgar pictures. It was both scary and annoying because I am a busy solicitor and always careful not to give out my personal mobile number to clients. Initially I was baffled as I have never done internet dating nor gone to an agency.
I discovered the culprit at a family wedding a few weeks later when my father came up to me and asked me with a smirk whether I NOW had a boyfriend. He went on to admit he had placed adverts on a few dating sites and gave my personal details as he thought it was time I got married. I was furious but his explanation was: ‘Someone has to sort you out if you don’t.’
I am 27 years old and as far as my bullying father is concerned, on the shelf with no hope of finding a husband and giving him the grandchildren he insists he deserves.
Over the last couple of years when we meet, which isn’t often, he always interrogates me about whether or not I have a boyfriend. Most of the time I say ‘no’ because it’s easier and helps keep him off my back. Unfortunately it didn’t work as he regularly asks what’s wrong with me, tells me his view why I have failed personally and states it’s no wonder no-one wants to marry me.
I could ignore it when it was just between the two of us but his latest behaviour and intrusion is unforgiveable. I have had to change my email and my mobile number which as you can imagine is a nightmare. I want to cut all ties with him. PLEASE tell me I am doing the right thing.